We've all been hurt in one way or another, that's just the trials and tribulations of life. But harboring all that hurt, turns into anger, and unhealed wounds. It's like we surpress
our feelings hoping they go away, but the truth is they resurface when we least expect it. This causes us to self sabotage in our personal life, business relationships, romantically, and so on.
The biggest issue with truly healing oneself is that you literally have to relive each and every moment of it all over again. The thought of that itself hurts, I know but that's the only way to truly heal from whatever it is that's been bothering you year after year, laying dormant waiting to reappear and torment you again.
The first thing you can do is start writing about it in a personal journal. Really go over each situation, person, or incident and express yourself truthfully. But remember to apologize to yourself for whatever roll you may or may not have played even if it was bad. Remember to tell yourself it's not your fault, and then release it.
Shadow work is another important step in healing. It's kinda like journaling, with a question and answer guide. You can easily find a book on Amazon or kindle.
Taking walks in nature, self care, meditation, learning to love you all over again, is all part of the healing process. Getting to know the new you, and embracing all she has to offer.
Just be sure to put in the work. You owe it to yourself, and your healing journey starts with you.